Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Key OCD Insight - Trusting Allah


Part of the anxiety associated with OCD comes from shaitan and his whispering (waswasas). We can relieve this partial anxiety by placing our trust in Allah. As Allah (swt) says:
“Verily, he has no power over those who believe and put their trust only in their Lord (Allah).”
(Surah An-Nahl 16 : 99)

Keep in mind, however, that not all OCD anxiety is from the waswasas. Other anxiety can arise because the person consumes caffeine (coffee, for example).

Monday, February 27, 2012

VERY IMPORTANT - Shukr, ungratefulness, and OCD

OCD is an anxiety fear-driven disorder in which a person's thinking is heavily, heavily biased towards negative thinking.

The problem with negative thinking is that it can lead Muslims to showing ungratefulness towards Allah.

"I don't have this! I don't have that! etc"

Muslims with OCD need to be aware of this key fact in order to avoid showing ungratefulness to Allah Almighty.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Halal/haram food contamination

An issue that comes up in non-muslim eateries is the idea that haram food can contaminate halal (i.e. if the grease from a pork burger touches the halal burger).

Yes, there are valid cases where this can happen, but there are also cases when we muslims go too far in avoiding everything.

This can make life difficult, especially in universities, the workplace, etc.

How does a devout muslim deal with this?
<TODO This entry needs to be expanded upon>

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Do good deeds in moderation!

Shaitan can make us go overboard in even doing good deeds! I know a friend of mine once went insane in wanting to do more and more good deeds - she even started becoming anxious, and developing an obsessive-compulsive personality.

http://en.islamtoday.net/node/1713

Coffee and anxiety and OCD

If you're a muslim suffering from OCD,  consider cutting back on coffee. Coffee can increase your anxiety, especially that related to OCD.

http://www.anxietyzap.com/9-caffeine-anxiety.htm

watering can waswasas

watering can waswasas

many muslims use "watering cans" to cleanse themselves after using the bathroom. some muslims, however, are attacked by waswasas (the devil's whisphers) when using the watering cans.

the waswasas make them think that the water from the toilet is perhaps "splashing back" at them.

HOWEVER, muslims should not let these waswasas make their cleanliness affairs difficult.

a solution is to ignore the waswasas.

just do their best to keep themselves clean, keep it simple, and don't take too long in the bathroom.


other solutions:
- flush the toilet before pouring the water
- pour water slowly

the key thing is to keep the washroom cleaning process SIMPLE and not over-complicated! just do your best, and know that a "little bit of impurity" is OK as it's too hard to avoid all forms of impurity.

there's a related post on this site about small impurity:
http://muslimocdhelp.blogspot.com/2012/02/small-amounts-of-impurity-can-be.html

Friday, February 24, 2012

Small amounts of impurity can be overlooked

Ruling on small amounts of impurity

The following references a fatwa from IslamQA, shown in a box (Fatwa 12720).

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Trace amounts of impurities can be overlooked

          From IslamQA, Fatwa 12720
Ruling on a small amount of impurity: 


Some of the scholars said that a small amount of impurity cannot be overlooked at all.  

Some of them said that a small amount of all types of impurity may be overlooked. This is the view of Abu Haneefah and was the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, especially with regard to problems that many people face, because it is too difficult to be thorough and to clean it properly all the time. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
"and [Allaah] has not laid upon you in religion any hardship"
[al-Hajj 22:78] 

The correct view is the view of Abu Haneefah and Ibn Taymiyah. Among the small amounts of impurity that may be overlooked because it is too difficult to guard against it is a small amount of urine in the case of one who suffers from incontinence but tries to guard against it as much as he can. 
With regard to what constitutes a small amount, whatever ordinary people consider to be a lot is a lot, and whatever they consider to be a little is a little.  
On this basis it may be said that the basic principle is that if a few drops of urine get on a person's garment and he washes off whatever got on it, until he thinks it most likely that the najaasah has disappeared, then whatever is left and is not washed comes under the heading of the small amount of najaasah that may be overlooked, as stated above. And Allaah knows best.
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So the stronger view of the scholars is that trace amounts of impurities can be over looked. As for the constant attacks of shaitaan on whether the clothes are clean or not when a person goes to the washroom, the basic thing is to do all that you can to prevent your clothes from getting unclean.


You MUST give yourself the benefit of doubt
Also, unless you are certain that there is urine on your clothes, you are not supposed to wash them. This is a big thing, you MUST give yourself the benefit of the doubt.



Unaware of impurity?
If you’re unaware of impurity, your prayer’s still accepted insha’Allah. See the box below.

Were aware of impurity, forgot about it, then prayed?
If you were aware of impurity, forgot about it, then prayed, and then remembered your impurity, your prayer’s still accepted insha’Allah. See the box below.
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          From IslamQA, Fatwa 12720

Shaykh Ibn Baaz was asked about the case of one who is unaware of the najaasah. He said: 
If he does not find out that it is impure until after he has finished praying, then his prayer is valid, because when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was told by Jibreel whilst he was praying that there was something dirty on his shoe, he did not repeat the first part of his prayer. The same applies if he knows about it (i.e., the impurity) before he prays, then he forgets and prays wearing (the garment with the impurity), and does not remember until after he has finished praying, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
"Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error"
[al-Baqarah 2: 286] 
But if he has some doubts whilst praying as to whether there is some impurity on his clothes, it is not permissible for him to stop praying, whether he is leading the prayers or is praying alone; he must complete his prayer. 

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“I worry whether my clothes are clean or not. I’m uncertain.”
Your clothes are assumed clean unless you are absolutely certain of some impurity. See box below.
          From IslamQA, Fatwa 12720

4 – Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen said: with regard to a person's clothes, the basic principle is that they are taahir (pure) so long as he is not certain that some impurity has gotten onto his body or clothes. This basic principle is supported by what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said when a man complained to him that something happened to him during his prayer – i.e., he broke his wudoo'. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him: "Do not stop praying unless you hear a sound or detect a smell." If a person is not sure about it, then the basic principle is that he is taahir (pure). A person may think it is more likely that his clothes have become contaminated with najaasah but so long as he is not certain, the basic principle is that they remain taahir (clean)




Concerned about #2 at work, and the prayer?

If you need to use the bathroom for the greater need (i.e. #2, defecation), you should know that you just do your best in cleansing yourself with what materials you have (ie, toilet paper and whatever water you can afford to have).

Since you're not at home, you will likely have a bit of impurity on you, but know that a little bit of impurity is OK in the case of salah. A little bit is determined by drawing a small circle in the palm of your hand, not too big, not too small, like a coin. See the related post on this site about that.

Especially in North America and Europe, there's only toilet paper available in the workplace/campus environment, and if you need to go while at work/campus, you should go - don't harm your body, it has rights over you!

Friday, January 27, 2012

shaitan's trap - focusing on the smaller deeds

"devil is in the details"
one of shaitan's traps is to cause you to focus on the deeds of lesser value.
shaitan causes you to focus on the smaller things sometimes. obsessiveness.


excellence vs extravagance

excellence vs extravagance

for those who are obsessive, you may have seen some companies that have an obsessive" focus on details.

you have to decide whether the "obsessive" attention to detail is being excessive, or whether its actually helping you be excellent in the product.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

the end goal

does obsession help you with the end goal?

think about the end goal. whats your end goal? if your end goal is to be strong enough in maths, is the little obsessive step - get every little thing right - going to help you in the end goal, or will you get to the end goal anyways if youre not as obsessive about every little step?

youll find that the obsessive little steps won't matter and you'll reach the end goal anyways.

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Excellence vs Extravagance

The following entry was written by Sister Maria I. from New York:

Ihsan is the idea of "perfecting" things for the sake of Allah without becoming excessive.

  1. Allah loves those who pursue excellence, and beautify things for his sake.
  2. Allah loves moderation - not doing too little (negligence), and not doing too much (extravagance and excessiveness)
In my opinion, I think the key things we have to differentiate are:
  1. Aiming for moderation in our affairs (eating, sleeping, exercising, etc), but NOT aiming for mediocrity in our efforts
In today's day and age, if someone tries to "perfect" something for the sake of Allah - to aim for excellence and beautify it - people might stamp the "OCD" label.

I think it's really important for us to differentiate between excellence and extravagance. I feel that excellence is the aim for beautification, whereas extravagance is transgressing the limits for a particular task. As humans, we can intuitively tell with our gut feeling when we have transgressed the bounds on something. It's just inner intuition.

Because if we just think that "aiming for excellence" = "OCD", then we'll continuously fall down the path of mediocrity.

And of course, we are humans. We fall back down, get back up. Sometimes we're just not able to do the excellence we intended - Qadr'Allah - there is a next time, insha'Allah.

is ocd a blessing in disguise?

is anxiety disorder a blessing in disguise?

my experience with ocd is that it instilled in me a lot of taqwa, fear of Allah. ocd is an axniety disorder, a fear driven disorder.

however in ocd fear is composed of many elements:

fear = fear of germs cleanliness <excessive fear
fear of being imperfect
fear of displeasing Allah < a "good" type of fear


there are fears and irrational fears that satan instills in us. he causes us to go extremes in cleanliness etc. and there are fears from our own nafs .



but then there is a 'good type of fear as well and that is the fear of Allah. but we have to remember to have a good balanced opinion of Allah, the believer has two wings, wings of fear, and wings of hope in Allah's mercy.


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so in curing ocd, the bad types of fear need to be improved through mindfulness-cbt approaches.

if you find that the mindfulness-cbt approach completely removes all fears, start building up the good fear, the fear of Allah.

be careful...

ocd is an axiety driven disorder. people with ocd tend to have a lot of fear of something, and tend to have their thoughts accentuated towards negativity.

its this same negativity that can make people develop a bad and evil opinion of Allah especially if they misinterpret the following hadith:

there's a hadith qudsi about how Allah will not like those people who did actions for fame/show, actions that were not for his sake. i don't have the exact hadith on me, but the point is that people with ocd may misinterpret this hadith and unfortunately disregard Allah's mercy and hence develop a bad opinion of Allah. they need to remember to do their best, and have hope in Allah's mercy that they did their best to purify their intentions free of insincerity. essentially, ocd people (who by the way are fairly intelligent) will do so so much to purify their intentions, they might go into despair, from the excessive ocd fear and not have a balanced opinion of fear/hope in Allah's mercy.

also....as for ghusl....ghusl "every hair on the body must be wet" - while its true that you need everything on your body to be wet for ghusl, ocd people may take this literally and go to extremes, thereby taking long times in the shower. the key thing is not whether you actuually wet every hair on the body, but whether you think you got everything wet. having said that, it's extremely difficult and unrealistic to wet every millimeter of your body. Allah just wants you to do your best. when its said"every hair on the body must be wet" they're giving a guideline to cover everything, but they're still saying ghusl needs to be easy and not difficult.

Thursday, January 19, 2012

the inner desire to do more

with ocd u can have a strong drive to go above and beyond. you dont mind going the distance.

its this very essence that i believe the shaitan can detect.

with this same urge can come a desire to cross boundaries. the solution is to be respectful of people and their boundaries, and not cross them.


so does that mean you're turning "off" your inner drive?

no, it means that you're channelling it appropriately.

for endeavours in which the inner drive to go the distance will be beneficial - and is morally and legally OK , and you are able to do it - then go ahead!